There are many reasons people drift from church. But after a while, many people feel the pull to return. It’s normal to feel awkward or scared of returning to church, but it helps to remember that you’re far from alone, and returning isn’t as hard as you think.
At King of Kings, we hope to make your return as warm and welcoming as possible. We’ve written this guide to explain what to expect and how to make the process comfortable. After all, you don’t need a reason to come back. But it helps to know what you’re coming back to.
Why Do People Go to Church?
Everyone arrives at church for a different reason. Some like the ritual and rhythm, while others find the spiritual enrichment itself fulfilling. Many people value the community and belonging that regular church attendance offers, from recognizing the same faces across the pew to joining together in service or in small groups. For many attendees, it’s a combination of all of the above or something else entirely.
What It’s Like to Visit Church Again
No matter the reason you stopped attending church in the first place, it’s natural to feel nervous or hesitant to start up again. We’ll answer some common questions and fears people have before attending church again.
Can You Just Walk Into a Church?
Yes! Most churches welcome visitors anytime. Whether you’re arriving at a service or just popping in at an off time, you can expect to feel welcome but not overwhelmed with attention.
Going to Church Alone
It can feel difficult to put yourself out there alone, but it’s very normal to attend church by yourself. Churches intentionally welcome individuals as well as families. You shouldn’t expect to be put on the spot, cold-called, or pressured.
What Happens at a Typical Church Service
It depends on the denomination and the congregation, but often, you’ll experience worship music, prayer, scripture reading, a sermon, and a point of connection with other community members. Some churches, like King of Kings, offer both traditional and contemporary worship services, which vary in content and style.
How to Start Going to Church Again
Find a Church That Feels Comfortable
Start by researching churches in your area. You might prefer a specific denomination, teachings, worship style, or location. Find churches with features that appeal to you, such as small groups, volunteer opportunities, and activities for families or young people.
Start With One Sunday
When you’ve narrowed down your list, attend each church to get a feel for it. Don’t worry about what you’re wearing or what to do when you arrive. There’s no need to make a long-term commitment or become a member; just simply show up.
Try It a Few Times Before Deciding Anything
Sometimes it takes more than one visit to feel comfortable. Reflect on the church’s environment, community, and style. Could you picture yourself fitting in here? Do you like the feeling you get when you’re here? If the answers are yes, you may have found a good fit.
Introduce Yourself or Attend a Welcome Event
To really feel at home in your new church community, don’t be shy about meeting fellow congregants or church leadership. Meet the pastors or volunteers, and learn about church membership.
Explore Small Groups
The more involved you become, the more comfortable you’ll feel in your new spiritual home. Build relationships, grow spiritually, and experience church beyond Sunday services by trying out social groups or Bible studies. Many churches offer a wide range of small groups, so there’s truly something for everyone.
Do You Have to Go to Church Every Sunday?
Many Christians find that regular church attendance nourishes both their spiritual and social lives, but it’s not a requirement to attend each week. Church attendance isn’t about obligation, but rather about gathering regularly with other believers to rejoice in the Lord’s love and guidance. Weekly rhythms help build faith and connection, especially during your time of spiritual curiosity, hunger, and desire.
If Any Awkward Feelings Arise…
Don’t worry. There’s no need to be ashamed about being away, not knowing the liturgy, or bringing kids who don’t know the words. Most people have their own complicated history with faith; you’re not alone. The community will be happy to have another faithful joining their ranks, not judgmental about why you haven’t been to church or where you’ve come from.
At King of Kings, we pass out bulletins and have words on the screen to help you follow along with the service. And if you’re worried about unruly kids, we don’t judge — but we do have busy bags and our welcoming Lamb’s Gate Nursery, complete with toys, games, and trained volunteers.
The Door Is Open
At King of Kings, we’re a welcoming home for all, whether you’ve been away from the church or you’re finding your church community for the first time. We offer resources for first-time visitors, and you can even plan your first visit in advance and receive a special gift.
We invite you to visit our home in Woodbury, MN, for traditional and contemporary Sunday services. No pressure, no stress, just a family of faith ready to welcome you.